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“She is Overconfident”, the sentence has a long history in my life.
My dear Anusha teacher from Grade-4, I remember the day you told my parents “Your daughter is OVERCONFIDENT” in the Parent-Teacher meeting.
And….. from a conservative background, this meant a negative remark and all along my life I’ve been lectured how over-confidence can kill all my chances of getting better at things. I was accustomed to the fact that being over-confident is my biggest set back.
After all these years if I can still remember this, isn’t that talking for itseld?
Now that I’m getting a good piece of real professional world I know myself a lot better. Took me a lot of time and a best friend to understand. I’m not complete but I know I’m moving in the right direction.
This post is for everyone out there who has ever been told, “YOU ARE OVERCONFIDENT”
Save yourself all the thinking, it’s not bad. You’re just underrated and misunderstood.
When “Confidence” is perceived attractive, why is “Over Confidence” projected in the dark light. (And that’s what even Google says — guard against overconfidence)
- Overconfidence means you know more of yourself than anybody else does,at least you’re not among the clueless herd.
- Overconfidence is not bad, it’s really special. (Not everyone knows themselves).
- Overconfidence is attractive. There is a lot more in this world than that clueless soul who accused you of this. Be Proud.
And every time I started to prove myself for the things I was said I’m overconfident, I changed their perception — That’s the confidence that makes me be happy about who I’m becoming..
My first project at my current company served a major player for this post. Despite me and my kick-ass teammate being super confident about delivering it before schedule, our managers did not share the same optimism.
A couple of months down the line, my teammate (who was well experienced) had to go off on sudden long leave. This put the schedule under enormous risk. I’d be lying if I told you that I wasn’t dismayed by this.
We had a lot of crunch meetings and me being new to all this was rather shaken up. My boss told us this project has all the signs of impending disaster.
But I knew that wasn’t true,
I knew my project, I knew my code, I knew Me.
They don’t.
And yes, we shipped it. And it’s been up and running months now with no issue to very minimal support.
The experience was exhilarating. And it only added to my “OVERCONFIDENCE” that I was right.
Today I am happy with so many other stories, I still have a long way to go and this time, I’m proud to move forward as an OVERCONFIDENT me. ❤❤
I admire confident souls but I adore overconfident souls.
So the next time you see an Overconfident soul, remember you just don’t know enough of them. Also, if you’re the person being called Overconfident, they just don’t know you. Prove them wrong :)
Only you know you. Only you know what you’re capable of. Only you are YOU*.
Others, can just feel you and call you “OVERCONFIDENT” :D