Whiners, complainers, victims, and lazy people don’t get anywhere.
Barbara Corcoran says it all the time :
« The difference between the real winners is how long they feel sorry for themselves. My winners feel it… but they come back up and say hit me again. »
Are you one of those moaners?
If you are, stop reading right now.
Because you won’t like what follows…
There are 4 types of people.
Type 1 : The « all the time lazy I don’t do nothing » ones
Type 2 : The « I know all the reasons there are not to try this and that » ones
Type 3 : The « let me do only the minimum » ones
Type 4 : The « let me crush it and take massive action » ones.
Let’s dive into each of these 4 types of people.
Type 1 : The all time lazy I don’t do nothing ones.
Hmmm.
Do I really need to describe these people ?
(And I am not talking about the people who are sick or have a medical condition preventing them from working, or from doing anything that might take too much of their energy. Because that energy needs to be directed to their health.)
I am talking about the people who are in top shape, who consciously and deliberately decide they won’t do anything.
And they like it.
Too lazy to work.
Too lazy to innovate.
To try.
To move.
To do anything.
No contribution to society. And even worse, not even to themselves.
And it’s sad.
Type 2 : The I know all the reasons there are not to try this and that ones
That was me.
A couple of months back.
And it was exhausting.
(Happy me, these days are over)
When you fit into this category, you are the world champion of « finding excuses » not to do this and that.
There is this mysterious and unique logic that goes through your mind, and this is often a product of low self-esteem.
There is no point of starting something.
There is no reason to waste all that energy on things that will not work out.
Let me save me time & energy.
The worst thing about being in that state of mind is that everything is stagnant.
Nothing changes.
Nothing improves.
And you become resigned.
It’s your destiny.
Anyways, even if you tried you would fail.
In other words, you find all the excuses and all the reasons why it will fail before you even start anything.
You are « falsely » protecting yourself from disappointment.
Type 3 : The let me do only the minimum ones
I know someone who fits exactly into that category.
A very nice and sweet person.
A father.
Dedicated to his children and his wife.
Going to work every day, even if he does not really like it.
That’s his sense of duty.
If he keeps doing that, it will bring a pay check every second week and allow him to pay his bills.
To go to a restaurant once in a while.
To pay all there is to pay for his children.
I asked him one day :
“With everything that you know that others don’t, have you ever thought about starting your own business ? Or at least, changing jobs for a better one ?”
Well, his answer was clear :
“Entrepreneurship is not for me. Same thing with looking for another job. I can’t take on all that uncertainty. What if I start my business and it fails? What if I change jobs, and then I lose it because I am the last one in? I would lose all the social advantages of my old job. I have to provide for my kids, for my wife. They all count on me. , Where I am now, I am not completely happy, but at least it gives me security.”
Another lie that’s been entering our brains since elementary school.
Having the same job for a few years (the longest possible) is « secure ». It is preparing you for old age.
A job where they could let you go any day.
A job where you have to ask for days off.
A job where you can have salary raises only if your boss feels like it.
A job where most of the time, you complain about…
I agree. Having a business is not for everybody.
But being stuck at that stage is just admitting that even though it’s not perfect for you,
you are willing to keep on doing your job. You are willing to contribute to the economy.
You are doing what it takes to keep your job.
That’s your security.
About these 3 types :
There are ways to get out of there.
Believe me.
Here are a few ideas :
Being surrounded by the right people.
Reading the right books.
Having the right coaches.
But the first step is to acknowledge.
Acknowledge that your situation is not the best there is and that you can change.
As famous Dr Phil loves to say : « You can’t change what you can’t acknowledge. »
Because when you are conscious about it and still don’t want a better life for yourself, you will stay stuck in stage 2…
Type 4 : The let me crush it and take massive action ones
These ones are the bomb.
The ones who are aiming for the best.
The ones who want to be on top.
The ones who are willing to work extra hours, do more calls, study more, get out there.
The ones who try.
Fail.
Try again.
Succeed.
And continue.
There is a huge difference between type 3 and type 4 people.
And the thing is that when you are type 4, you have a big problem thinking about the days where you used to enjoy being a type 3…
With being at type 4, there is no going back.
What’s good about it is that you can always increase the intensity.
And it keeps you going every day.
You see, entrepreneurs can be found at types 2, 3 or 4.
But successful entrepreneurs are definitely exclusively types 4.
So, tell me, which type are you?
Fabienne
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P.P.S. I want to give a special thanks to Grant Cardone, author of The 10X Rule who inspired me to write this article and explain in my own words one of the biggest lessons learned in this book.
P.P.P.S. If reading this has inspired at least one of you to realize where you are at, and helped you decide to take a firm decision to change for the better, I’ve done my job!